Tonight, the young women leaders decided that some of the girls needed an activity on "Femininity," which they delicately renamed "Girl's Night" lest some girls wouldn't show up.
But it got me wondering, what is femininity? The dictionary will tell you that it is "pertaining to a woman or a girl."
But our society, I believe, defines this differently.
I mean, come on, am I feminine only because I wear panties or bras?
Am I not if I don't?
Is "feminine woman" redundant?
Is femininity only describing girly girls? Or women who spend a lot of time on hair, makeup, and clothes? Who are pretty or dainty?
Or what about the days that I don't get a shower? Am I not feminine on those days? Or on those days, am I most feminine because I am too busy being a mother?
I mean, seriously, doesn't birthing three children give me rights to femininity?
But I don't paint my toenails very often. *Gasp!* And I usually shave my legs once a week. *GASP!* And I don't shave my armpits every day. *Faint!* And sometimes, though not in public, I don't keep my knees together. I rarely sit up straight, and I don't look good in a bathing suit.
I have fairly good hips, but no bust to be proud of.
Am I feminine? Am I masculine?
Is it bad to have qualities of both?
My real question is, what does it really matter?
I think girls should be modest. I think they should not be vulgar. I think they should be clean.
But my expectation of boys/men is no different...
I think the thing that bothers me the most is that there is a whole spectrum of women, from the super-high-maintenance girly girls to the super-low-maintenance tom-boys. Why does society, or maybe just the media, want to force us all into a little box of perfection? Should we make young girls
fear imperfection, or should we celebrate our differences?
(Disclaimer #1: I'm not even saying that I disagree with the need for young girls to have lessons in social graces. I actually think it is a helpful lesson for anyone to have.)
(Disclaimer #2: And I'm really not feminist, which movement really wasn't about feminism.)
What do you think?